In my office, the word “lazy” gets thrown around a lot. 💬 Usually, it’s not outwardly laden with heavy judgment. Sometimes, a client will describe a long vacation or a low-key weekend as being "lazy" with a twinkle in their eye and a mischievous grin. 😏✨ Have you ever noticed that grin? It’s fascinating. It comes from an innate, cultural understanding that taking a break from output—doing nothing when we "should" be doing something—is secretly bucking the system. It feels like getting away...

Photo of me dressed as a "grab your torch and pitch forks" villager in the Springer Opera House production of Beauty and the Beast, Dec, 2015. Pretending can be lots of fun. I’ve had the immense delight of being on stage, in full costume, surrounded by castmates who are also in costume, putting on a show for a warm, welcoming audience. People who actually paid to be there. (Wild, right?) In those circumstances, everyone in the room knows you aren’t actually the character you’re portraying....

So, hear me out. You’ve known for a long time that something wasn’t quite right. When people looked at you, they weren’t seeing the real you, weren’t reflecting that back to you, and it hurt! But it was also baffling because, why couldn’t they see you? Perhaps your curiosity prompts you to check out some of the new terms you keep hearing–aromantic, non-binary, gender queer, or even just, bisexual. Do bisexuals really exist? (Ha! That’s a joke.) How could I even know if I’ve never been with or...